GROUP DISCUSSION || GOFAMINT Singles
Topic: Why do Gofamint Ladies always choose to marry from other churches and leave us the Young Men of the same Church single?
It has been noticed that many Gofamint brothers and sisters do not marry themselves,and it has always been a concern for Daddy G.O and our national leaders, even at this year GOSPEL STUDENT FELLOWSHIP Conference the national GSF president during his welcome address asked the single sisters to stand up for recognition by the brothers and later also asked single brothers to stand up for recognition for the sisters just as to create familiarity and kind of strong internal relationship between the brothers and sisters and to enhance and to promote internal marriages.
This has also been a concern for so many youths of the great Mission that’s why the topic was raised in a group discussion and so many youths pour out their minds as follows:
Bolaji Toyin: The brothers in Gofamint don’t appreciate the sisters
Asaph Osuntoyin Taiwo: Brothers, you also ask yourself why we ladies are leaving you, is because you brothers are not serious, you love playing games with diff sisters in the same church and later on you will go to other churches to marry that’s why we also find our square root.
Taiwo O Moses: Inside or Outside. What is important is the certainty and assurance of God’s leading.
Onastomech Deborah: why are the Gofamint brothers’ not serious with what they have. do you expect the ladies should keep hopping in vain when u brothers are not serious.
Fanimi Charity: Bro in Gofamint why do you promise and fail, why can’t u pray to God to direct your part and your step, as for me can marry in any church because I have experience with one Gofamint bro even a pastor’s son.bro in Gofamint and even Other churches do promise and fail, please let’s talk reality and find solution to it, if truly you bro want and need we sis in Gofamint church..
Oluwaleke Olasogba: This is a wonderful question, Gofamint ladies are special, beautiful, and elegance like other denomination’s ladies that we tend running after. Well I won’t like talking much, but I will just analyze some reasons why I think some are running away to marry from other denomination and they are as follows:
1. Familiarity and pride
2. Character and branding
3. Disappointment and gossip
5. Shyness and timidity
6. Exposure and orientation
7. Secrecy and interference etc.
These and many more are responsible for such migration and when we are complaining of that, it happens to both gender. So, the accusing finger cannot and never be pointed to ladies alone. Gofamint ladies are good and special in their own way.
Beloved Bayonle Adeleke: Interesting gist, I love happy couples and that is what is important to me. let me talk to brothers first, God gave us Spirit to connect and receive from him, immediately u know u are right, take d step sharply..For ladies, we love u but not all of us are confident to propose to you because we thought you may snub us..I married in Gofamint and no regret, Gofamint sisters are the best, Guys wake up!
Ohue Captain: Marriage is a life time institution. One needs to be very careful before entering into it. One of the factors why our ladies in Gofamint go outside is because most of the guys in Gofamint fail to propose to them and they cannot remain single forever. Inferiority complex and lack of boldness happens to be the major factors hindering our guys from proposing to ladies in Gofamint. Left to me, it is Good to marry a Gofamint member but it is better to marry God’s choice. I can boldly say that I am married today to a Gofamint sister and I am having a glorious home (Heaven on earth in my family) #Proudly Gofamint#
Prince Paul Akinola: So funny… Bro also should go out and bring in ladies from other churches… Case settles…
Awoleye Tolulope Elizabeth: In my own perspective, GOFAMINT boys, guys and men should know they are to be priests, pastors, mentors, motivators to the ladies they will be engaged to. If the male in church are not showing any evidence of spiritual growth but only to show that they are active outwardly but cannot quote five verses of the Bible off hand. How do u expect a lady with a zeal of growing spiritually to give in to such “brother”?
Prince Odufade Oluwatosin Adeola: How about the serious-minded brothers in the church? Why are our ladies turning down their proposals too? I perceive that our ladies are running after material things. May God help us in GOFAMINT.
Abraham Sagbohan: Our ladies are choosy not 100% but most are, 2ndly I’m confident and have made moves to just two sisters in the same Church but I’ve limited my moves because they failed, and if you don’t make moves how do you want God’s approval? Marriage na bone for bone, wife may be strong husband weak spiritually if they are meant for each other, only God can tell so take it up to God for guidance and if he or she is your Bone, Do your Job and train him/her to become a strong soldier that’s why you are of bone of the bone, flesh of the flesh. When we brothers come to you at 23-25 shakara too much when you turn 28-30 you’ll expect us to come to you shebi? When we don settle down, well I’m still single and need a wife from Gofamint.
Taiwo Holo: Hmmm, interesting discussion going on here.
1, when it’s about marriage, pray for God’s will as if it’s only prayer that does it.
2, develop good values for yourself, they make you potentially attractive,
3, be responsible, and behave responsibly, nobody wants to marry a liability in the name of church!
4. Be focused.
5. Appear well.
6. Get good social skills. Interact and communicate. It’s easier to tell your friend let’s take this notch higher than you bumping into someone along the alley to say, God say I should say..
7. Ladies, don’t be primitive, be open to friendship.
Lastly, I know quite a number of our pastors are reading this, pls let continue to create forum that will encourage cross fertilization among the youth. Youths who only see on Sunday service don’t help.
Olaoluwa Stephen: Gofamint ladies choose to marry from other churches not because of spirituality cos they know Gofamint guys can be spiritual and filled wiff the Word for the world but if my guess is rite i think is cos majority of we guys don’t own an estate or have a hummer jeep or probably we don’t have heaven on earth duplex but I want ladies to understand this ‘even though our beginning may be small but I can assure you that our middle and our end will be surely great because God is the sailor of OUR boat.’’
Adeola Esther Oseni: If the brothers from other churches are taking your sisters from under your noses, then go and bring in sisters from outside or are the sisters outside turning you down too?
Sunday Oladoye : If the sisters in Gofamint chose to marry outsiders please wish them the best and for the brothers please never be discourage about that your God who created YOU know the best for your life. Yoruba proverbs do normally say IGBINYIN LO MA DUN OLOKU ADA! – – – Also brothers let us be serious with our activities in the house of the Lord – – at Assembly, District, Region and if by privilege at the National level – – -you are going to see what God is going to in your life.
So many Gofamint youths have poured out their minds, and I can that they all have a very good points we’ve what they’ve just said, solution to this lies not only with the sisters but with the brothers also, let both the brothers and sisters come together and sort things out, We are the Future Leaders of Gofamint. LONG LIVE GOFAMINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
From Akure, reporting for HBN News